10 Things You Can Do for Someone Who has Lost a Loved One
10 Things You Can Do for Someone Who has Lost a Loved One
When a friend, colleague or family member is going through the grieving process, there is so much more you can do for them then just sending flowers. Having the support of friends and family can make all the difference. Here are some suggestions:
1. Take time to Listen. One of the most important things you can do is to make yourself available and truly listen.
2. Send a card or letter letting them know you are thinking about them. Holidays, birthdays and the anniversary of the person’s death can be particularly difficult. Sending a card or note during these special times let’s your friend know they are not alone.
3. Call or stop by to make sure the person is doing ok and offer a listening ear or a helping hand.
4. Take the person on an inspirational adventure- what do they love to do? Reconnect them with life and joy through the simple pleasures of life. Do they love bike riding? Going to the beach? Walking through the park? Make it simple and allow them the opportunity to talk about how they are feeling. Validate their feelings and let them know it is ok to laugh again and enjoy life.
5. Make them dinner or take them out for dinner or coffee.
6. Help them put together a memory book of pictures and mementos of the person that has passed away. This will give them a chance to connect with the special times they spent with their loved one.
7. Help them with everyday tasks. Show up and tell them what you are there to help with: Take out the trash, wash the dishes, go grocery shopping, take their dog for a walk, wash their car, mow their lawn, take the kids to school, etc.
8. When they are ready, help them go through the clothing of the deceased. Many families will donate clothing to a charity or give items to friends and family. This is probably one of the most difficult processes and your help will be greatly appreciated.
9. Allow the person the opportunity to grieve and to cry. The grieving process does not end at the funeral. Avoid trying to solve or provide solutions but just 'be there'.
10. Send a gift of hope, inspiration, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Send an inspirational book, a journal, a memory book, a funny movie, a beautiful picture, a mediation CD, a day at the spa, or any gift item that helps your friend with the healing process. Visit our website for a full selection or our section on smaller tokens for follow up support. http://www.sympathysolutions.com/catalog/category/future-smaller-tokens/index.html