I read so many books after my 24 year old daughters death. Some I don't remember their names. But I do remember The Shack, Tear Soup, & I Wasn't Ready To Say Goodbye. I even for the first time in my life started reading the bible
The Grieving Garden by Suzanne Redfern and Susan K. Gilbert, twenty two parents share their stories The first book I read after my son died was Roses In December by Marilyn Willet Heavilin. It was a gift from a friend. The second book was December's Song written by the same author. I still have those books, I can't part with them. Both books asured me I was not losing my mind. Both are beautifully written
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart saved my life after my baby son died. Sadly, I have shared it with a handful of friends and friends of friends over the past few years and we all agree that it captured our feelings of grief for our deceased babies.
"Walking in the Garden of Souls" by George Anderson was a book I found comforting. I am still in the begining of my journey (its been four months and twelve days) and liked this book because it was like getting a glimpse of heaven, of peace and of the continuation of the journey of souls.
Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul. Helped me more than I thought it would.
90 Minutes in Heaven and Heaven is for Real. It's been 3 years since my beautiful Stephie was murdered and I still read 90 Minutes in Heaven when I'm really sad and need to remind myself of the glory she is experiencing now.
"Lament for a Son" by Nicholas Wolterstorff. It is a powerfully honest book that I could relate to. I highly recommend it
I very strongly recommend "The Bereaved Parent" by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death by Sherokee Ilse, and Empty Cradle, Broken Heart by Deborah L. Davis. Both books help those of us coping with perinatal losses understand we are not alone.
"Hello From Heaven" by Bill & Judy Guggenheim...it filled with me with such hope that I will for sure see me angels and other loved ones again....keep the Faith! ♥
The shack and the destiny of souls by Michael Newton,was really great.Makes you see life differently.
"Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child" by Sandy Fox
When the Bough Breaks" by Judith Bernstein, "I wasn't ready to say Goodbye" by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair
Give Sorrow Words by Tom Crider, the most beautifully written of the 100+ books I read. It is 1 1/2 years since my son passed away at 29 years old from a heart aneurysm. My healing has been helped along with my friends and family. Books have been a great source of comfort to me. One book in particular, sent to me from a friend was titled "Necessary Losses" by Judith Viorst. Something amazing to pass around and keep it going. A wonderful book.
"Choosing to SEE" by Mary Beth Chapman and "A Grief Observed" by CS Lewis....both excellent!!! I have read every book on parental grief that I could get my hands on in the 10 years since I lost my 16 yr old son in a car accident. Many of the best are listed here. Confessions of a Grieving Parent by Zig Zigglar is one I did not see listed and is a must read for any christian parent grieving the loss of a child.
Choosing to See by Mary Beth Chapman! I also found her husbands (Steven Curtis Chapman) CD Beauty Will Rise very helpful!! We had the chance to go see them in Lancaster, PA and it was such an uplifting experience! They are amazing and their testimony to Christ is wonderful!! Also, the Bible!! Got to lean on God's guidance! o I read "The Last Lecture" with my daughter, Terri Ann, before she died and shared part of 90 Minutes in Heaven with her describing the beauty of heaven (the description is EXACTLY how I want heaven to be!!) Rabbi Kushner's "When Bad Things Happen to Good People,"
Chicken Soup For The Grieving Soul also helped me not feel so alone because as comforting as friends are - they can't really understand the pain and loneliness like someone who's been there! It justified some of my feelings and was easy to read in short sessions.
Tear Soup...a book for all ages ♥ ♥ I have loved many of the books already mentioned, but just recently finished "the knitting circle". It is a fiction book, but written by a mother who lost her child and it really touched on some of what a grieving parent really experiences. I think it is really great to recommend to those who don;t understand and want to help us.
"The Seven People You Meet in Heaven" by Mitch Albom. I remember it helped, but it's been so long ago that I don't remember why.
Embraced by the Light (similar to 90 minutes in heaven) and We Are Their Heaven-Allison DuBois.
2 favorites are "Healing After Loss" by Martha Whitmore Hickman for at first when 1 page a day may be all you can read...and for later, "Living Still, Loving Always byNita Aasen.
I tried to read grief books but honestly I couldn't finish them. I guess I am a true SELF help kind of girl. My grief book: THE BIBLE. Works every time! ♥
2 days after loosing my oldest son Chris my youngest son Steven gave me a book called "Why" by Ann Graham Lotz . I held on to it and read a little each day and have re-read it many time since. It was such a comfort and held me up in my darkest times and still does. I would reccomend getting this book . God Bless !
I wasn't Ready to say Goodbye by Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair and Heaven is for Real by Todd Burpo.
"Night Falls Fast - Understanding Suicide" by the brilliant Kay Redfield Jamison PhD and MD. She also wrote about her own struggles with Type 1 Bipolar Disorder (manic-depressive illness) in "An Unquiet Mind".
o Two of the most profound books that I have read were "Walking In The Garden Of Souls" by George Anderson and Andrew Barone, and "The Gift Of Grief: Finding Peace, Transformation, and Renewed Life After Great Sorrow," by Matthew D. Gewirtz.
"On Life After Death", "When Bad Things Happen to Good People", "Growing Up In Heaven", "When God Dosen't Make Sense","When Heaven and Earth Come Together".
o Noticing that a few have shared music as well as books,--Alan Pedersen(singer, song writer, & speaker) has some beautiful CD's, that relate to child loss. I first heard of him at a Compassionate Friends meeting
o Mediations for Survivors of Suicide by Joni Woelfel was extremely helpful to me. It was recommended by a childhood friend of my daughter who committed suicide in 2002. Also, After Suicide by John H. Hewett was given to me.
o I highly and strongly recommend "When Your Child Dies" by Theresa Huntley. I believe it is a MUST read for all bereaved parents, whatever your stage of grief. I found this book to be a valuable source for "answers" that validated my feeli...ngs. I would also recommend "Learning to Live, Laugh, and Love Again After The Death Of An Adult Child" by Jan Jaworski. If you are, as I am, the parent of a child you had to watch die then this is a story for you to read. You will laugh when you discover Jan's definition of "Normal!" Even without our realizing it, our precious children have taught us so much about life and how to live it. In loving memory of my only son, Sean. I'm so glad that it was you who taught me about life and death. I love you and miss you you so much. Mom
"How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies" by Theresa Rando, PHD addresses every kind of loss, it's dynamics, variables, and its collateral damage. It not a "spiritual book". For a spiritual perspective, James Van Praagh's "Healing Grief".
After my daughter died, I had such a hard time reading anything including my bible. I was given a book by Carol Kent, called "Laying My Isaac Down" her son didn't die but went to prison for life it really helped me with my faith. She has also written "A New Kind of Normal" and "Between a Rock and Grace Place" awesome books, to renew your faith.
What if I Whispered Your Name by Anne Pieterse. This book was written by a mother who lost her youngest son to the sea. Her oldest son has a genetic disease and comes to the brink of death. She writes very fluidly. It's just her story not a real self help book or anything. I liked it.
My favorites have been, "The Shack", "What to do when the police leave"by Bill Jenkins, and "A Mother's Tears" book of poetry by Claire Stevenson. All have been very helpful to me in different ways.
"Transcending Loss" by Amy Davis Prend & "Surviving the Death of a Sibling" by TJ Wray.
o I am the author of "From Pain to Peace - A Journey from Rage to Forgiveness. After my daughter was killed by a drunk driver I wanted revenge. From Pain to Peace is her compelling story, tracing her journey from rage to forgiveness and heal
Heaven Is For Real. This book left me with peace knowing that my son is in a wonderful place. It's an peak at Heaven.
Our family received many books as gifts after suddenly and unexpectedly losing our 22 yr. old son. I read them all after a few months when I was able to read. Tear Soup is a wonderful book. I gave many copies as gifts. Every illustration is done with such care, and each word is chosen carefully.
My husband really liked Experiencing Grief by H. Norman Wright.
Love never dies by Sandy Goodman. She also has a webb site that is very nice.
I was given a book from one of the nurses at UAB hospital when we were there with my son. I am forever graitful to her for all that she did to help me through this very difficult time. The book is called Confessions of the Heart by Ambled Brooke Meat & Judith Meat. It is thier story of dealing with bipolar disorder& her suicide. This gave me insight into my sons feelings at the time of his death. We love you Dereck.
Anything from James Van Praagh- "Ghosts Among Us" "Unfinshed Business" and I am reading "Growing up in Heaven" now. These books have helped in my healing process of the loss of my daughter three years ago.
Mommy, Please Don't Cry... There Are No Tears in Heaven by Linda Deymaz. It brings tears to my eyes whenever I read it but it has really been a great help to me
Hearing Jesus Speak into Your Sorrow by Nancy Guthrie, And Then You Were Gone: Restoring a Broken Heart After Pregnancy Loss by Becky Avella, and Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg
"Heaven is for Real" ~ it's not a grief book, but gave me hope like NOTHING else did...coming from the view point of a child makes such a difference ♥ hugs & love to my little love, Kirstin ♥
Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul and Roses in December
"Grieving the Child I Never Knew." It is specifically for a stillbirth or infant loss
A child died a Father cried and God answered by Mark Canfora This book helped renew my Faith in God.... I still take life one day at a time to cope with the loss of my son....
The Empty Room: Surviving the Loss of a Brother or Sister at Any Age by Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn "Heaven is for Read" by Todd Burpo; "Working it Out: A Journey of Love, Loss and Hope" by Abby Rike; "90 Minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper.
o After ~4 months, I started to read - A LOT. I read "Heaven is for Real," by Todd Burpo; "90 Minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper; "On Grief and Grieving" by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross; "Visions, Trips and Crowded Rooms" by David Kessler
"I'm not Dead, I'm Different" by Hollister Rand. Love this book. Also "Heaven is for Real, and "Growing up in Heaven". Thank you for all the suggestions
o The first book I read 4 months after the sudden death of my son was Beyond Tears - Living After Losing a Child (by Carol Barkin, Audrey Cohen, Lorenza Colletti, Barbara Eisenberg, Barbara J. Goldstein, Madelaine Perri Kasden, Phyllis
"Grieving Forward: Embracing Life Beyond Loss" by Susan Duke. I received this book a few months after losing my 16 years old son in a car accident. Susan's story and journey mirrors mine. 2 1/2 years later it evokes tears as I continue this journey.
Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing by Thomas R. Golden. It seemed to really speak to me as a man about grief. The metaphore of being swallowed by the snake described in the book made sense to me.
The Worst Loss: How Families Heal from the Death of a Child, author Barbara D Rosof. Written by a psychologist who has counseled many bereavved parents to help other counselors help bereaved parents. The author covers the mourning process through the years. This book helped me realize that I wasn't crazy and what I was going through was on target.
Two of them were very good resources for me. I still pick them up after two years and read parts of them. 1) When your Child Dies From Drugs and the second book is Beyond Tears - Living After Losing a Child
o I have read so many books since my son's death by suicide, and have a few to recommend. On suicide, the very best is "Dying To Be Free" by Beverly Cobain & Jean Larch. I have purchased more than 14 copies and given them to my son's friends
"Letters to My Son" by Mitch Carmody; "Choosing to See" by Mary Beth Chapman; and I'm currently reading "A Child Died, a Father Cried, and God Listened" by Mark Canfora. Two other books that I've read that give me hope that I'll see my kids again are "90 Minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper and "Heaven Is for Real" by Todd Burpo.
Every year my sadness increases around the anniversary of my son's death....this year was especially bad (don't really know why....) and my cousin bought me Mary Beth Chapman's book Choosing to See....although our circumstances were completely different I was so relieved that someone I view as a strong woman of faith struggles with depression like me.....great read!