Things for Adults to Do with Grieving Kids


Talk about what happened using a doll house, puppets, stuffed animals, phone. Run, jump, play on big equipment to get stored up energy out.


  • drawing
  • painting
  • clay
  • take pictures


  • write songs
  • play songs
  • listen to music


  • reading stories about the person who died
  • telling stories to each other about the person who died
  • reading stories/books together
  • create your own life story


  • letter to the person who died
  • write a letter from the person who died to you
  • make a wish list
  • write in a feelings journal
  • write poems about feelings or memories

Creative Expression

  • let go a balloon with a note in it (Be sure to be environmentally friendly, and use biodegradable balloons.)
  • create a scrapbook of favorite memories
  • make something to leave at the grave side
  • work on a memories quilt together
  • start a memory box

When the child shows you something they have made or done, encourage them to tell you more about it. For example, "I see you drew a picture. Tell me more about it. What does this mean to you?"

Allow the child to be your teacher. Having a dialogue with the child about their expressions of grief allows healing to occur.

Adapted from Langley Hospice Society's Children's Program Reference:

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